Tips for talking to your teen

It is important that you keep the lines of communication open between you and your teen. However, talking to your teen can often be a one sided affair with you asking questions and them responding with grunts or one worded answers.

To help you keep your bond with your teen, try our top five tips:

Be an involved parent

Show an interest in your teen’s life and speak openly, honestly and respectfully with them.  When setting expectations, make sure they are clear and encourage independence while teaching safety. Get involved in their after school activities and become active in their life.

Always know what’s going on

Try to understand their typical behaviour and feelings. Remember, teens are interested in new ways of doing things, feel awkward when they believe they don’t fit in and can behave childishly when stressed.

Set expectations

When setting expectations, set limits that you both agree to. These can include homework and school progress, allowance or money and after-school jobs or activities. Always clearly communicate any changes in the original agreement.

Keep communication positive

Good communication with a teen may be the most important part of your relationship. Having open conversations with your child will teach them how to be respectful with others, make them feel more confident in discussing their feelings and will encourage them to learn that a positive attitude will keep them out of fights.

How to put practice into play

Make a habit of talking about what makes your teen happy and try to eat together as much as possible. Always be aware of your own reactions and take time to respond. If you make a mistake, admit it and say “I’m sorry”. When talking to your child, avoid judging them as they will not want to be open with you if you are constantly judging.

Teens will only speak to their parents when they are ready and feel comfortable doing so. Always give them time and let them approach you when the time is right.