Family Life

One photograph sums up why parents need to find calm amongst the chaos

Raising a family is chaotic, it is one of the most challenging and exciting times in your life. 

However, the thing about having a family is that life as you once knew it completely changes.

Your everyday is filled with dirty diapers, feeding times, bathing times, homework and picking toys off the floor. 

It's a chaotic mess – and you don't even know where to begin. 

Morgan Ramsey is a mum-of-two who knows the feeling of chaos, but she also knows where to begin. 

The mum believes, as a parent you need to find your calm amongst the chaos, and the first place she goes to find this is her partner. 

"Sometimes you need to find the calm in the chaos. One day, you'll wake up and ask yourself, what am I doing? Why doesn't this feel right?"

"That's when you realise your, 'what would you like to do for fun today? Where should we go out tonight?' […] turns into, 'will you change the baby's diaper? […] Will you get up with the baby this time?' and suddenly you’re disconnected from the easy going, free loving adventure your life once was."

Parents become exhausted and often disheartened from the lack of attention and love you show one another, because most of the time when children come into the picture, they become your first priority with your relationship taking a back seat. 

Morgan writes: "But don't forget where it all began."

"The need for constant attention is real, if you don't believe me, ask my children. Don't forget that you are human too and the feeling of being forgotten is also real."

The photographer mum is asking all parents to take a small amount of time each day to have a conversation which doesn't involve the kids, work or money, and listening intently to what your significant other has to say. 

"Do not minimise the burden of stress each of you carry on a daily basis, don't compare pain. Always, talk about the first night you met. Remember that spark that lit your romance on fire."

"A simple, 'I love when your hair is all messy' comment can brighten a day quicker than the kids can destroy a room."

Letting your partner know you appreciate them is the definition of finding calm while the kids are tearing the house down, and when you feel it's all too much and you need to cry – laugh instead. 

Laughter is the best medicine, and as Morgan states: "Embrace the glorious mess that you are."

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