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Mum is shocked after her daughter says these three words... but she handles the situation brilliantly

This mum had the right approach to her daughter's words.

One of the most important jobs we as mums have is ensuring our kids grow up with a positive body image.  However, as the image of what is deemed acceptable and what isn't by society swamps all forms of media our job is made all the more harder. 

But not impossible.

Mum-of-two Allison Kimmey is one such woman who is teaching her children to have body confidence and not judge others. 

And in a recent post on Instagram, Allison explained how her daughter told her brother that "mama is fat', and shared how she handled the situation.

Here is her post in full: 

My daughter called me fat today.

She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat.

I told her to meet me upstairs so we could chat.

Me: "What did you say about me?"

Her: "I said you were fat, Mama, I'm sorry."

Me: "Let's talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It's not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy. Do you have fat?"

Her: "Yes! I have some here on my tummy."

Me: "That's right! So do I and so does your brother!"

Her brother: "I don't have any fat, I'm the skinniest, I just have muscles."

Me: "Actually everyone; every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts."

Her brother: " Oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me"

Me: "Yes, that's true. Some people have a lot and others don't have very much. But that doesn't mean that one person is better than the other, do you both understand?

Both: "Yes, Mama"

Me: "So can you repeat what I said?"

Them: "Yes! I shouldn't say someone is fat because you can't be just fat, but everyone HAS fat and it's okay to have different fat"

Me: "Exactly right!"

Them: "Can we go back to the pool now?"

Me: "No." 

What a brilliant response, we love how Allison handled the situation. 

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