Mum doesn't love her kids the same and she's not afraid to admit it

Preferring or loving one child differently to another is a taboo that not many parents are brave enough to admit, let along talk about. 

Mum-of-two Casey Huff  is breaking that silence by admitting that she doesn't love her second child in the same way as the first. And she actually makes perfect sense. 

Posting to her blog, Etched in the Home, she explains why loving your children equally shouldn't be something that mums are pressured to do. 

"I don’t love my kids the same," she writes.  "This worry-turned-fact is something that kept me awake when I was pregnant with my second son; stealing the peace of the night as I wondered how in the world I could make enough room in my already bursting heart for another." 

When she was pregnant with her second son, she fretted over howe a second baby could fit into their family. 

"It was the unsettled feeling that I cried over on the way to the hospital after dropping our oldest boy off. The next time we saw him he would be a big brother, and I wondered how I could ever love the new baby with the same overwhelming love I felt for him."

But there was no need for that worry, as she realised when she met her second for the first time. 

"When our second was born, my heart grew exponentially in an instant, overtaking anything I ever could have imagined. I loved this new baby with my whole heart, and his big brother? I somehow loved him even more than I had before."

As her children are different from one another, so is her love for them. 

"The truth is, I don’t love my kids the same at all, but I realise now that that was never the goal. My love for my them is as unique as they are from one another.

"I love my oldest as the perfect replica of the best guy I know; his Daddy. I love my youngest in the way that his smile reflects my own, right down to his full lips and the gap between his two front teeth." 

Even as they are different stages of growing up, Huff loves them for their unique personalities. 

"I love my big as my sidekick; always up for exploration and adventure.  I love my little for his cuddles; for the way that he nestles into my neck and lays the whole weight of his body against me, sinking into my own.

"I love the ornery gleam in my oldest's eyes, and the way that his wit is far beyond his two years.  I love my little one for the way that his blue eyes shine with delight as he takes in the big wide world around him.

"I love my big for his spunk, and I love my little for his sweet. These babies of mine?

"I love them in the way that I love both sunshine and moonlight; not one more than the other. Each one just as much, but never the same." 

Her post had clearly struck a chord with parents, and has since gone viral. 

It's not about playing favourites, as others may assume, but each child is unique in their own way and need to be loved differently. 

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