How to help your son deal with his first heartbreak

Since males are generally expected to be tough and stand up tall, people often forget that they are vulnerable beings too.  Heartbreak affects both boys and girls, so if you have a son who is going through his first breakup, it won’t be any easier on him, especially as a young teen.

As a parent, it’s important for you to help your son stay healthy. It may be heart-breaking for you to see your little boy in such a state, but try not to force him to open up to before he is ready.

If you approach him before he is ready to speak, it may push him away even further. Instead, try to do the following things to help your son mend his broken heart.

Acknowledge your son’s emotions

Tell your son that you know what he’s going through and that it gets easier with time. This will show him that you respect, understand and support his emotions, while giving him hope at the same time.

Don’t speak poorly of the girl

Avoid negativity or making your son feel worse than he already is. Don’t voice any negative opinions about the girl, instead, stay positive and encourage your son to be spend time with people who you think can have a good influence on him.

Don’t forget small acts of kindness

Your son might not admit it just yet, but he knows that it’s the little things that count. Cook his favorite meal, iron his favorite T-shirt, these small gestures will show him that you care.

Listen carefully

If your son decides to open up to you, avoid judging him or giving him your opinions right away. Listen to what he has to say and assure him that time heals all.

Look out for signs of depression

Loss of appetite, trouble sleeping, feelings of hopelessness and a loss of interest or motivation are all signs of depression. If you think your teen’s sadness is turning into depression, speak to his doctor as soon as possible.