How to help your daughter deal with heartache

When your daughter told you about her first boyfriend, you were probably both excited and nervous at the same time – especially as a lot of first loves don’t last.

Parenting a broken-hearted teen is never easy and no matter how much you try to convince your girl that it will eventually get better, she may still want to spend her time crying in her room.

So how do you fix this? Or can you even fix this?  It’s not entirely up to you to mend your little girl’s heart, but there are certainly some things you can do to help her deal with the situation.

Don’t take it personal

Your daughter will probably want to be left alone. Don’t take it the wrong way, she will most likely speak to her friends about the problem and when she is ready to come to you, she will.

Give your support

There’s no point in judging her or telling your daughter that she shouldn’t have gone there. She’s already hurting, so the last thing she needs is a lecture from you. Be supportive, listen to her and give her advice when she asks.

Be positive

Encourage your girl to meet new people, take up a hobby and focus her energy on something positive. She is still young and there’s so much more out there for her to see and do.

Expect a few changes

Getting over a first break up is never easy and your little girl may even want to go off the rails. Help her stay true to herself and remind her that it’s no way of fixing the issue.

Keep her healthy

Don’t let your daughter feel sorry for herself. Get her out of her bed so she can start moving and keep an eye on her eating habits.  Make sure she isn’t skipping any meals and that she drinks plenty of fluids (too much crying can lead to dehydration).

Prepare for a relapse

Just when it seems like she has it put together, your daughter may want to go back down memory lane. Tell her that it’s in the past now and that she should focus on being positive and working towards the future.