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Posted: Thu Dec 31, 2015 2:14 pm
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I am married to a lovely lady who no longer wants sexual intimacy with me.

She wants me to cuddle but as soon as I get aroused she gets annoyed. I can't touch any part of her intimately without her getting angry. This has been going on since the birth of our daughter 3 years ago.

She is always tried after work and always have something to do before sleep (watch tv drama, playing with her phone...) and when she is in bed, she turns away from me and sleep. I know she loves me and it's not because she is cheating or having an affair.

We have tried talking about it but she either says she just doesn't want it or change the subject. I have tried everything I could such as setting up dates, setup trips for our daughter to visit her grandparents (we are not from Ireland) so we can be alone etc, but none of these really helps. I still love her very much and cannot imagine leaving her ever.

But I have a very high sexual desire and currently can only get my satisfaction from porn. I am really disappointed and desperate right now and could not imagine being like this for the rest of my life given we are only in our early thirties.

I am not initialise anything as I am afraid of rejection. Sometimes I think about to have casual encounters but never put that into practise. What should I do?


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Posted: Tue Jan 05, 2016 3:37 am
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Really, there could be a million reasons why your wife doesn't want to be intimate with you.
This has being going on since the birth of your child - is/was you wife suffering from post partum depression, how was the birth? was it hard for her? had she much support around that time, you say you are not from Ireland did any of her family come to see or help around this time( or yours)
She may be genuinely tired after work, is she working full time? Are you working? Is the housework/childcare split evenly?
You may be just putting more pressure on her by setting up dates and sending your child away for the sole purpose of being intimate with her, can you cuddle your wife without becoming aroused and assuming it will lead to sex? Maybe if you decide to take sex off the table and just be nice to her and do nice things for her without any expectation of it leading to sex she might relax and want to be intimate with you again.


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Posted: Wed Jul 13, 2016 10:22 pm
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Thats tough.. I think you should talk about it.
Thats a risky piece of advice but can you show her what you have written here? Perhaps if she realise you might have an affair and will be afraid to loose you she would change her mind
If it is a real problem inside perhaps therapy could work?


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Posted: Fri Sep 02, 2016 11:13 am
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Have you tried talking to her? Maybe it lacks romance, or have any medical reasons for her abstinence?


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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2018 4:53 pm
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I advise you to consult a specialist. I had this problem too. My husband and I decided it differently. On the Internet we read that before sex it is necessary to watch exciting videos. We followed that advice and sat here ebony girls https://no.firecams.com/category/ebony-girls. It helped. I felt aroused. I wanted my husband. I don't have this problem now. That is all right. You too. Good luck!


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Posted: Mon Jun 11, 2018 2:15 pm
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After birth it's normal if woman doesn't want sex fr a while. it happens. but if it's more than 2 month, maybe there is a bigger problem not only psychological. my recommendation would be go to see a specialist, because there are many reasons why she doesn't want sex or maybe it's unpleasant and painful for her. of course, first of all, try to talk.


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