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Sorry, i thought she said this herself before, under one of her other guises.

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A pure hand needs no glove to cover it. ~Nathaniel Hawthorne, The Scarlet Letter

BOOYA!

Her child is with her father I am nearly sure she said the other day?

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I'll never be a good example, so I might as well be a fabulous warning

My daughter is staying with my mother since my relapse as I was unable to provide adequate care for her while under the influence and I would not neglect her.

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

My daughter's father has never even met her. His own choice.

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

Ah ok sorry, I must have mixed up posts or something. My own child is in the same situation, father has never wanted to know.

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I'll never be a good example, so I might as well be a fabulous warning

Sorry to hear that. It's tough. Do you get 1 million questions about him?

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

Off other people you mean? Not really and ds is only 2 so not asking anything yet. Not sure how I will deal with the questioning when it starts to be honest. How did you deal with it?

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I'll never be a good example, so I might as well be a fabulous warning

I hope the fact that you have a daughter and she needs you will give you the strength not to relapse again.

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In order to have VICTORY in your future, you must not become a VICTIM of your past

The first time dd mentioned him (apart from her first words being dadadadadadadadada ) was aged 2 in the middle of Lidl. She had been in creche for a while, so must have heard other children talking about their Dads. She asked 'Where is my Daddy?'. I told her where he was last seen... I told her his occupation..

I told her as much as I know about him. She's 7 now, so the questions can be more 'to the point'.

I got advice from a 'professional' (see - I do get professional help!) as to how to answer the questions. There are articles I'm sure you could find online regarding how best to approach it.

The main advice was to be completely honest. Also, to mention traits/physical features which she may have gotten from her Dad.

And then I personally highlight all the people she has in her life who do love her and are in her life.

She goes through phases of asking about him.

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

One would think that alright!

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

Bet you've never heard that one before...

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Nope - that's a new one... Why hadn't I thought of that one before... I'm sure now that that wee gem has been lodged in my brain I'm well on the road to recovery!

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

people are just trying to be helpful!!!

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She's 5.
He's 2.
I'm tired!

xmygirls should perhaps look at herself first.

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

I know she didn't.

It's just that everytime someone mentions my daughter it's like a nine inch nail being hammered into my stomach. And believe me, I'm busy enough hammering myself at the moment.

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

Peacelily, just wanted to wish you all the best. x

Thank you so much. That means a lot.

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

Bet you've never heard that one beforeNope - that's a new one... Why hadn't I thought of that one before... I'm sure now that that wee gem has been lodged in my brain I'm well on the road to recovery![/quote]


people are just trying to be helpful!!![/quote]

xmygirls should perhaps look at herself first.[/quote]

I don't need to look at myself peacelilly I know im not perfect nobody is. Everytime someone tries to be nice to you on here you throw it back in their face. You are doing yourself no favours. But I do wish you well on your road to recovery.

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In order to have VICTORY in your future, you must not become a VICTIM of your past

My psychiatrist in a moment of rare lucidity told me I was my own worst enemy.

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

That is good advice, thank you for that

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I'll never be a good example, so I might as well be a fabulous warning

You're welcome.

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“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

Just read 11 pages of this and my first thought was -Get off the cross, we need the wood!

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Mam to a 7 year old little big man and an amazing 18 month preemie!

Hot diggity dog, but that's unnecessary. And cruel.

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