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Somebody asked me today what we were doing for it and I said that Dh would prob. bring his Mother who was visiting for lunch but it's only then that it dawned on me that she was referencing me being a Mother etc. The girls would send a card to both Grandmothers for Mothers Day but we don't send another to our own Mothers (because they do from all of us iykwim).

They might end up making a card in school from me but that'd be pretty much the end of it here. Wouldn't have even dawned on me, don't feel 'old' enough to be part of that club yet if that makes sense.

Anybody else the same?

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My kids are too young to do anything other than make a card/cold tea and burnt toast in bed.

DP says I'm not his mother so he won't be bringing me for lunch.

In fact this year - I will be taking two of the kids to Doonbeg in Clare at 9.30 in the morning because our marching band is in a parade there on Sunday. So - no celebrations for me.

last year the daffodils were fully out, so the girls and dh picked a bucket full of them, this year they will come up with something else, and thats it. we never do the lunch out rubbish, . I am just not into it. I will give mam a card, and maybe a little gift.

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We dont celebrate any Hallmark Holidays here.
I mark Mothers and Fathers day for my own parents but only with a card or a phonecall if you get me.
I dont expect anything from DH or DD and by the same token, they dont expect anything from me on those days.
We're the same with Valentines day and I'm not hugely keen on my birthday.
I do love Christmas and I do my best to celebrate birthdays and anniversarys, espeically when it means something to the other person.

Jaysus i'm a right old grumpy amnt i??

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Mothers day is not a hallmark holiday, it is much older. And I don't think my children and their father appreciating me me is rubbish.
So we celebrate Mothers day and Fathers Day.

Totally agree. I would be very, very pissed off if I didn't get a card at least. I really think when children are young saying that "Hallmark holidays" aren't celebrated is just an excuse for one's partner's thoughtlessness. That goes for Father's Day as well as Mother's Day.

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Same in this house.
Girls were always helped in making cards/meals until they were old enough to take it on themselves and I was always either handed my meals for the day or brought out.
Same now with the boys, looking forward to my ususal 'interesting' breakfast
This year DD2 is bringing me out and I am bringing my Mam out, 3 of us are going to one of our favourite restaurants and we will have a lovely couple of hours chatting, eating and drinking while Dh is home/out with the other 3.

I heard last year (at mass so the priest had his own agenda ) that Mother's day originated hundreds of years ago as a break from Lent. It allowed those who were undergoing sacrifices for Lent to travel home to see the mammy. That's why it is always right in the middle of Lent. That may be a pile of cobblers but it's interesting & definitely pre-Hallmark.

I'd always expect a card and a little gift, usually handmade and "unusual". I always make a fuss of my own mother, although she says it isn't the same to her since her own mother died. I imagine I will feel the same when the time comes.

I'll get a card from DS and I'd say something home from Montessori. I had no money to bring my own mother out to celebrate this year, but I won lunch for four people in a nearby hotel. I will bring my mum and granny out. It's rare we all do something together, so I'm looking forward to it.

My DP is the world's worst when it comes to this stuff, & I give out about it every year but it falls on deaf ears (or to be more accurate, argumentative ears!).

My birthday was last week & I got a crap card, a few days later, with a (non winning) lotto ticket. At the same time I got another card, a generic off the shelf vaguely female (teenager-ish) design, not a "Mother's Day" card, which I was told was for Mothers Day. And a small box of chocolates which I don't like so he ate them all (he know's which ones I Do like but never gets me them).

I find it very upsetting that he really give so little thought to this, when I've told him every time that it really is important to me. I know that he personally isn't into this stuff, but for my sake, and the fact that I do expect a bit of thought & effort, I keep hoping that he will make an effort.

This should probably be in the RANT section!

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I probably wasn't really clear in my op but I'm not coming at this from a "couldn't be bothered angle" - more that it had never dawned on me that I was a mother in this instance, aswell as having a mother.

Also, does not celebrating Mothers Day mean your family don't appreciate you? Wow.

It must be said though that we are not great on any 'card type' occasions in this house. Dh birthday was on Monday so the girls made him some crispie buns. They also made a card for him but that was pretty much it. HUGE fuss for the kids birthdays though, we always love those.

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Not really into it here either. Always buy my Mam a pressie but not bothered about "celebrating" it myself.

It will be just another day here, DH is away, so I've reminded him to send flowers to his mum, with instructions not to send any to me as I'm not his mother

I'd say my children don't even know it's Mother's Day on Sunday

A card and flowers or a small plant was all I ever did for my mum and it's all I'd look for from the kids.
But if I didn't get that I don't think I'd feel less appreciated or anything.

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We don't mark mothers day, fathers day or valentines day. I have told kids what my mother told me I would prefer to be appreciated everyday rather than once a year.

Mothering sunday comes from a time when people worked in service, they had to return to their own church one sunday during lent. They were allowed collect flowers in their 'masters' garden to bring home with them. The term mothering actually refers to the mother church rather than their parental mother.

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Mothering Sunday is centuries old and traditionally girls in service would be given the day off to go home to visit their mothers. they would usually bake a cake which could be eaten as the Lenten rules were relaxed for that one day. it's definitely not a Hallmark Holiday.

I'll get a handmade card from each of the kids, but other than that, normal service here. DD1 is older so she might cook dinner. I can't remember but I think she did last year.

Same here - also, because in Italy both are celebrated on different days, we make a point of ringing my mam and dad to make a fuss too.

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You are your childrens mother though so they should be enabled to do things for you just like you do something for your mother and always have done I'm sure.


I am not DH's mother either but I am the mother of his children and that deserves at least a card IMO.I will get a card and breakfast in bed and I have said that I would like to do something nice on Sunday.Not sure what yet but as there is no rugby on I will be given free reign

The kids love it,making the cards and maybe a little pressie in school,me pretending that I don't know whats coming and them fighting over doing stuff for me all day.Its great!

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Im not really fussed over it much prefer birthdays. Told df all I wany is a copy of the cake decorating mag. Ds will make a card for me and his nannys. Then il get something for the two nannys. Usually get dfs mam a potted plant from kids. We love to see them growing iywim. We often pick up both nannys bits and pieces through out the year so like to appreciate them all year.

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I do and I'll be going out for lunch and drinks with my mam and sister, I'm having a day off. My poor children will be at home with their dad wondering if I'm drunk yet such a bad mother tut tut.

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I think its very important to celebrate Mothers Day, while I do appreciate my mum every day, I think its nice to have one day especally to show them. I wouldnt normally tell my mum that I love her,(just not the saying out loud kind of family) but I do on Mother day and to dad on Fathers day. I look after both My Mum and MIL for gifts, just small simple gifts like plant or something, DH looks after me, My first year as a mum he didnt get me anything, DS was only 3 weeks old, I was so upset, it took us years to have DS and I couldnt belive he so unthoughful. I think it must being the only time I really ranted and raved at him,so he hasnt made the same mistake again, and tbh It may seem childish but I havent forgotten or forgiven him over it either.

I agree that its nice to celebrate/mark Mothers and Fathers Day.
Dh will get me a present and the kids will make cards and bring up breakfast in bed - I do the same for him for Fathers Day
We will get a gift for our Mums too

I used to really like it but my mum died very close to mother's day and that has changed how fully I can engage with the day. This year mother's day is on the day she died so I have very mixed feelings about it.

I'd usually get a number of cards - varies from year to year - and we go out to lunch as a family. It isn't a huge deal for me in that I don't feel any more or less appreciated or unappreciated on mother's day than any other day of the year.

Father's day is done is pretty well the same way.

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I get breakfast in bed, a cake made the day before and dinner. I'm not allowed downstairs till the table is set. It's as much for the kids as it is for me. DH will always make a big effort on the day to make sure I'm made to feel a bit special. We never really celebrated it when they were tiny (we were too exhausted), but now the boys understand the day they always make a big deal same as we do Father's day. I don't ever do lunch out though but I would probably want to if DH wasn't such a good cook and I was the one that did all the cooking here. I can totally understand some Mother's getting a well deserved break from the kitchen.

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I'm like you Deise in that I still think of it more for my mothers than me. I'd like to get a card, I'm sure dd will make one in school, but don't expect anything else.
I have bought my mother a nice mug and I'll get her a card and flowers. We won't go out anywhere though as everywhere is so busy especially with it being Patricks weekend too. Might make a cake and have a little tea party for us both, DD loves that!