I was born and grew up in Ireland and have recently moved abroad, don't want to say where in case I'm recognised by friends.....let's just say it's a 90 min flight away. I am extremely close to my family, my mum is like my best friend and I really miss seeing them a couple of times a week. I only moved in October and my parents came over at the start of November for a couple of days and then I went home with my boys at the end of November and then we all went back for Christmas. My parents are coming again next week. So in a way I've been quite spoiled and seeing them a lot. We moved here as DH got a very good job opportunity, he literally spent about a year persuading me, not continuously but it seemed to keep raising it's head. Now I'm here I'm not totally unhappy and I came with an open mind and have started learning the language etc, joining toddler groups etc and have already met a good few other mums who are lovely so I really don't have a bad life. Plus we can afford a really big house plus for me not to work and I reaslise this is a complete luxury these days so I can spend lots of time with my children. So as I'm writing this I feel really ungrateful. I'm generally quite content but from time to time get bouts of loneliness, my DH is really concerned and asks what exactly it is I'm missing - friends/family or what but I think it boils down to jsut being homesick for everything to do with Ireland. I know I'm not here long but DH said last night that he is now wondering if we should pack everything in and go back, I would then need to work 5 day week and he would mind the children (his job is not common in Ireland) - he had his own business before we left but it was very quiet at the end. That option looks bleak when I think about it.
So I'm really just looking for anyone who has dealt with homesickness? For a while I thought I was getting depression as I felt so low at times (happens for just a couple of days at a time usually) and it's just like PMS, I'm iratable and really emotional, just can't stop crying (hiding it from the rest of the family for the most part but my DH often notices my state). But now I don't think it's depression as such, I think I'm just extremely homesick.
Maybe things will get better. But I can't think long term at all, my DH says if things aren't working out we should go back before our first boy is in school - it has been a huge adjustment for him so far, he's in playschool now and has started picking up the language etc. I think I'd be fine to stay 2-3 years if I knew we'd be back in Ireland long term but DH thinks it would be unfair to our oldest as he would be well settled in school by then. I agree with him in a way but think at age 6 or 7 he'd still be young enough to adjust quickly.
Sorry for the rant (maybe I should post it in that section too) but just feeling really confused about what to do.
My big boy is 4 years old
My small boy is 2 years old