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Hi there, just curious about ways to break through the barrier on my road of the other mums as I've here one year now and there seems to be a cold shoulder towards me.
I play alot with the children outside and make big effort to know all of them but there seems to be some thing that stops the mums from caring about anything to do with me and even the kids seem
to be exclusive sometimes and my son is left playing on his own. My son is four and has started in the school. And therefore it should be easy at this age, right?

Answers to my email divinity@sharpeintl.com as Im actually never on magic mum. Thank you all for advice!

Hey there

You know, the other mums are probably feeling the same too. Someone has to make the first move, maybe ask them over for coffee. Or you could start chatting, say that your DS and their kid get on well, you could meet up at a play centre on Saturday and let them run wild while you both have coffee in peace

Are you for real?!! If you can't be bothered to come back on and look at the answers then you are not that interested in them!

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Exactly! If you cant be bothered coming back for answers, I cant imagine who'd bother replying!

(you do know posting your email address on a public forum will invite tonloads of spam into your inbox..)

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Also, maybe the fact that you couldn't be bothered to engage here is indicative of your attitude IRL and may be why your neighbours aren't engaging with you?

quote="Bluebelle"]Also, maybe the fact that you couldn't be bothered to engage here is indicative of your attitude IRL and may be why your neighbours aren't engaging with you?[/quote]

+1

Laura

Another +1 here too

I hate to sound bitchy but if that is how you are in real life I'm not surprised, asking for help but it sounds like your way or no way.

Hi thanks for replies, I have been checking back since the first post few days ago. Long time ago i had trouble logging in so I just was covering myself in case I had problems again. But i also do see your point maybe Im not that ready to be really in the click, who knows. I do know I have offered one mum if they'd like to drop over with the son, an she said oh your very good your very good but I had feeling she wouldnt. Its just inside the cul de sac because have some friends around the corner. The lady right across the road seemingly told her children they werent allowed in my garden for some reason, the kids all talk to me and told me they didnt know why. I was upset by this because another day her youngest daughter wanted to play with my son and the older girl whispered something in her ear and then she didnt. And i felt it was something that had come down the line.

Now there is one main reason that sticks out in my head why this could be: this lady not liking me, but not only this reason because she was never friendly when i moved in anyway. (husband seems nice)
exactly this time last year another lady who was friendly with my son and there kids were playing in front of the house and i had all the face paints out in my kitchen (i live alone so no stranger inside or whatever) and i asked him if he wanted me to paint his face i told him to run inside and ask his mum because i knew her few weeks thought it would be fine and he came out and told me she said yes so i said great, what would you like and he wanted a crocodile so i started putting green on his face. (i get paid to facepaint etc and enjoy it) about 5 minutes later the mum ran in the door (which was open) and started screaming histerically and shaking her 3 year old histerically, like wow i was almost scared, and very uncomfortable. screaming at him never go inside someone elses house.

Ok i get this, and i appologized, but assumed that the kid would never lie (my son actuallly never does/would, but i was naaive to think same for all) so i thought she had said it was ok. I felt awful and apologized a million times. (im also from countryside and grew up where everyone is alot more relaxed) so it was all a shock to me as i was trying to do a nice deed and make my sons friend happy. but anyway it created a scene outside and made me look bad, the woman across the road who was not involved looked at me as if i was a criminal. the whole thing had me really upset aswell. Ok so thats a year ago now. So should b over it. So ill stop going on about it now. just giving you the background. it made me embarrassed anyway, and im afraid to put my foot wrong again so maybe easier to be a little distant. Just surprised my son has not been inside any one of the childrens houses in the cul de sac in over a year.

Maybe you could just invite your neighbours in for a coffee and a chat. Making new friends is never easy. Let them get to know you properly.

Just to add we are really nice in Knocklyon.



Edited for spelling mistake.

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Thanks Larkin