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sorry if this is in the wrong place
my exH is having a baby with his ex, the one he left me for..
he is going up this week for a scan and i feel so weird.. its so hard to put into words.. it hurts so bad..
i lost my baby at 10 weeks shortly after we split.. i didnt even know i was that far along...i was pg when he left
i went thru it on my own.. i should be sitting here with my baby but instead i'm alone and someone else is having his baby..
i do know that i am better off without him but it still hurts for so many different reasons..
he has been trying so hard to make things better for us as 'friends'. he has said he wants us back together but i cant.....i've tried to tell him this but he just wont listen to me...
i could NEVER trust him again..
there are days when i think he really is sorry for what happened but then he opens his mouth and such shit comes out.. he blames my DS1 for the break up and takes very little responsibility for his part..
he behaves like a child when he doesnt get his own way...
tell me to cop on that i'm better off without him and not to be tied to him again

He blames a child for the breakup, how very grown up of him! I pity his current partner.

Telling you to cop on would be a bit harsh, you lost a relationship and you also lost a baby and that's a lot too deal with. It's a good sign that you've realised you're better off without him but it's also perfectly normal to feel funny about someone who was in your life so long going through this with someone else. You sound like you'll be well on the road to getting over it very soon

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You don't need to cop on you need to heal. Telling you your LO is the cause of the breakup? wtf? Is he for real? Seriously think your well rid of him. So sorry you lost your baby, he should have been there for you at this sad time and the fact he wasn't says a lot about him. Take time out to heal your heart and in time everything will look so much brighter for you. ((((((((((hugs))))))))))

is DS1 his son too?..is that why you are still in contact with him
if he is not your sons father why does he want to be friends with you ...or get back together?

sorry blaming a child is just wrong and I think there were more negatives in your post than positives.

grieve for your little baby, and what could have been. then stick your chin out and know in a couple of days/weeks/months this feeling will pass...regardless of whether he is your sons father or not...it does pass

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Thanks for the replies
He is not DS1's dad
I am still in contact with him as we have 4 kids together
i'm just having a crap week and cant really talk to anyone irl about it..

thanks again