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My dad (almost 50) has just rang me to say his 27 year old wife of two years is pregnant. My 26 year old sister and I are gunna have a brother or sister that is almost 25 years younger than us. Is it wrong to feel that this is just so wierd.

Dont get me wrong I always wanted a little brother or sister. but not like this. I didn't even now they were married until a few months ago. And I only found out her age recently. I cant get my head around this. wierd wierd wierd. I feel sick.

Why on earth do you feel sick? It's another person in your life for you to love and who may grow up to love you. That can only be a positive things. Congratulations on getting a new sibling! Your dad is very young, I can't say it's weird at all.

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not getting the "feeling sick" bit, sorry. A new sibing - what's not to like about that?
Also given that your dad's new wife is 27 it's hardly that surprising that she might want to have children is it?

If it were me I'd hope I'd be happy for them and I'd look forward to being a big sister again

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TP it's great news. I think you are in shock as you didn't expect it, you'll see that it's great news soon. It's not weird that a 27yo woman is pregnant - just because it's with your 50yo Dad. Your DD will have an auntie or uncle younger than her!! Congrats to them both.

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Cannot see any reason to feel sick, it might feel a little strange to be getting a new sibling at this stage of your life, but, surely it is exciting and something lovely to look forward to.

I hope she has a healthy and happy pregnancy x

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Sorry to be the one going against the grain. BUt i do read that and feel weird. Not necessarily sick but... just something doesnt sit right. I dont know why but it just feels weird. Very conflicting feelings i'd say for OP.

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That's brilliant, congratulations : ) I'm sure the feeling sick is just because it's so unexpected.

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The feeling sick part probably is because of shock. Me and his wife do not get on. He cant even phone me when hes at home because all she does is scream down the phone at me for no reason. So I doubt she will let us have much to do with our sibling when it comes. Apart from the fact that they live in UK.
I just dont know how to feel about it to be honest. My dad wasnt ever a good dad to us. And now I feel like its history repeating itself. maybe in time I will grow to accept it but right now I just dont know how to feel.

Ah so you are worried about the new baby? that's different. Hopefully second time around he'll have learned his mistakes.

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It must be weird alright as well as the step-mom of 27

Maybe your Dad will do a better job this time around and I guess your new brother/sister may need all the support he/she can get from its big sisters.

My Dad's youngest brother (half brother) is 33 years younger than him, he's the same age as my younger brother actually.
His dad, my Grandad, had a second marriage with a second family, 2 kids almost exactly the same age as myself & my brother, so my dad had new siblings the same years he had his own two children.

I would feel a bit weird about my dad if he had a wife the same age as myself, but only because he's my dad, I don't find it at all strange with other friends, relatives etc. In fact I know quite a lot of people who are happily married to much much older/younger people.

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I don't think anyone should be questioning how Trixie is feeling especially as most of you appear to never have been in a similar situation.

Trixie it will feel a but weird for a while but then you will get used to the idea and you can decide how much involvement you want to have. I Hope it works out and that your Dad is a better Dad second time around!

Jeez your dad is not even 50 yet, chillax, wait til you get into your 40s, you wont be so quick to write yourself off.

I think you are all reading me wrong. Its not the fact that hes 50 its the fact that she is a year older than my sister and that there is such a huge age gap between myself and my soon to be sibling. Most of my relationships have had big age gaps and I have no problem with that. Its just the fact that in his head its ok to marry and have a baby with someone who is almost the same age as his daughter, she could have been in the same school class. She looks younger than her age. Thats the bit i find wrong. I will probably get used to the siblings age gap, although I will probably look at them more as a neice or nephew than a sibling. But I will never get used to her age being almost the same a my sister.

How come you only found out about the wedding a few months ago? Would that be why you are feeling weird about it all perhaps?

I can see were your coming from. I'm sorry to hear he wasnt a good dad with you's and i do hope that hes better this time round!

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he told me to abort my baby when he found out I was pregnant or he would throw me out so I left his house and hadn't spoken to him since. That was 4 years ago. We only just got back in contact a few months ago and I found out he had remarried. He didnt even try to contact us, he knew where we were and how to find us. He never bothered with us. He only ever wanted a boy and we were never good enough for him. It's only now I have his grandchild and shes pretty and well behaved that he wants to show her off to everyone.

That is really hard.

Ok so I see you don't have a good relationship with your father, but in fairness there's nothing at all wrong with an almost 50 year old marrying a 27 year old.

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Right now this is weird for the OP for whatever reason... It's her father having another family, he's wife is much younger than him, his wife is almost her age, he wasn't great for her childhood, etc etc etc - it's big news to her and she probably got a funny feeling in her stomach on hearing it (i.e. feeling a bit sick, like how I feel before an exam) not that the situation is sick.

Stating how it is or is not acceptable to have kids at 50 or 25 year age gaps in relationships isn't really the point.

OP - I'm sure you're in shock, you'll get used to the idea and your feelings will settle down.

My parents had myself and one of my sisters after their first batch of children were already grown up and I believe it was a huge shock for all concerned!

huge +1

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agree too, I think it's only natural to feel a bit weird about it when you first hear especially if you have issues with him as a father in the first place. Easy to see this kind of situation as normal in theory, its a but different when its your own family.

Trixie, my dad and his second wife had a child 6 years ago - theres 25 years between me and him. Shes also younger than him.

It was a bit strange at first, but its ok now. I do think that you may not feel as strange about it if there wasnt other issues in the relationship between you and your dad.

I hope you will be ok x

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