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RANT!

Your daughter has been a real bully to my daughter, you, as her mother, are well aware of the situation and I know you avoid speaking to me because of this.

Your DD is having a birthday party soon and has handed out invitations to 29 of the 31 children in the class (all except my DD and one other child). She made a point of waving around the invitations in my DD's face.

Now, my DD is mature enough not to care and she wouldn't want to go anyway because of how your DD has physically hurt her in the past, but I really think it's extremely RUDE to allow her to invite everyone in a class that size and exclude just two.

Also, are you not aware there is a policy in the school which asks that invitations are NOT handed out in the classroom?

Shame on you.

END OF RANT - just wanted to get that off my chest!

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Cheers

Ellen
Mammy to
The Tall Girl 2003
The Funny Boy 2005

The mother sounds like a dose! Not worth getting angry about
hope your DD is ok, it was not a nice thing to happen

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Ellen, I always think in these cases I would rather be the mother of a bullied child than a bully - bullys are horrible, unpleasant
little creatures and if her mother is aware, shame on her for allowing it and for not trying to change this. Concentrate on your lovely girl and be thankful you are not raising that child.

It's very hurtful though and hard to manage.

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Your poor daughter, good to hear she hasn't taken it to heart. How small-minded of that lady and her DD

it sounds like the apple didn't fall far from the tree.

how childish off the mother. there is no way id allow dd to invite all the class except 2 kids.

her daughter obviously learned from her mother!

hope your dd is ok x

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Rotten thing to do to be honest.

There is something you could do - you could (if you felt like it) contact the school secretary/principal/teacher and ask them to reissue the school policy document to ALL parents reminding them of the rule about not distributing party invites in the classroom.

Thanks for replies.

My daughter is not hurt, she really couldn't care less, I just find it very ignorant behaviour. DD says she can't believe that the mother allowed her to do this. But...if DD had been invited she would probably have enjoyed declining the invite!!!!!

The other child who has been excluded is a bit upset, she was another of her victims in the past.

Most of the parties now in 3rd class are limited to just a few closer friends - I wonder why they feel the need to ask 29? My daughter reckons it's just so she will be invited back to all the parties that come up.

Anyway, as I said, just a rant!!

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Cheers

Ellen
Mammy to
The Tall Girl 2003
The Funny Boy 2005

+1

Did the teacher tak to the child handing out the invitations? Have the school been involved? Are they implementing their anti bullying policy?

The invites were handed out before the teacher came in.

Teacher and principal both involved when my DD was bullied, I spoke to both and I suspect the parents of the child (well, there were 3 kids involved so presumably all parents) were called in and informed. She (the mother) was rude to my DD shortly after this while helping at a school event. The mother has pretty much avoided me since and to be honest I have no wish to talk to her anyway.

No bullying since the last big incident mentioned above.

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Cheers

Ellen
Mammy to
The Tall Girl 2003
The Funny Boy 2005

Your DD is the same age as my DS1 and I think she sounds so grown up in comparison to him. You are obviously doing a brill job Ellen (it must be from speaking in rhyme all the time ). Honestly I would do as Tiedtheknot as said as it's disgraceful this was allowed. I just couldn't let it lie. Even though you say you don't want to talk with her anymore. It would give me great satisfaction to know she got a telling off. What a little spoilt brat. Her Mum sounds like a right wagon. I'm feeling very cross on your behalf and I just want to belt her one but I'm too much of a lady (we could hire someone ).

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+1 and it wrecks my head when I see kids waving invitations around like that
I was really surprised at a friend of DDs Mum (a teacher herself and someone I thought was fairly level headed) who said that her little darling loves giving out the invites in school - we have a list of phone numbers for the class to avoid this but she blantantly ignores this so that her DD doesn't miss out on the special experience of giving out invites

Great example to be showing your child letting them believe it's ok to treat people like that

I heard of a bullying incident recently and the father of the "bully" said that when the school contacted them, they listened and totally accepted the situation and admitted that yes their child was bullying the other child. It can't be an easy thing to hear but it's not doing your child any favours denying it.

Your daughter sounds like she is very strong and clued in

Dont get me started on mothers of the bully!!

My dd who is 7 was getting bullied by 2 girls and one of the mothers came upto me and told me infront of my dd that she has told her dd (also 7) not to play with my dd and to stay away from her.

For god sake they are 7 and have to be in the same class until senior school.

The mother now wonders why i always glare at her and why i want to punch her in the gob!!

Sorry end of my rant now

God almighty - what chance do children have when they are reared by such people. She probably thought she was doing the right thing.

the mother said it to me insinuating it was my dd doing the bullying. It was brought to my attention that my dd was getting bullied by another parent who had spotted it in the school yard. I now have to stand with dd in the yard in the mornings cos she doesnt want to be on her own

Oh worse again. My boys love school and have never had any trouble or come across bullying of any sort. Thank God. DD is starting in September and I am anxious, as it tends to be a factor in all of the schools in my area. Your poor little DD feeling anxious in the yard. That is just terrible.
Sullys

She will be fine, she will have her big bros there to stick up for her x