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Treat yourself to something nice, if not today then later in the week. Plan it now so that you have something to look forward to.

I didn't get anything either but I wasn't expecting anything so I'm not really bothered. The kids are away til tomorrow so I might get something then, DP and myself had a night out last night so now he's "dying" and gone back to bed. I'm enjoying having the TV to myself with the windows open wide and the lovely fresh air and sunshine flooding in. Didn't make any dinner, if the kids were here and asked for dinner I'd tell them to ask daddy. We might go out for a bit of pub grub later on or maybe go to the cinema or just have a nice quiet night in

DP didn't get anything for his own mother either, which is annoying me more We met her out last night and when she was leaving I wished her a happy mother's day but hopefully DP will think of it later and get her something.

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To me that is unacceptable. You might be his mother but you are the mother of his children and until they are old enough to get a card/gift themselves I would expect him to do it. We don't have much money this year either but DH cooked a huge dinner for my parents and the family and he gave me a card and a bunch of flowers from the kids.

I seriously don't think I could be in a relationship with such selfish and thoughtless gits.

Nothing here either. DH went to work without so much as a "Happy Mothers Day!". No card nothing and an assurance that he would be home "way before that" when I said 3p.m. and not a sign now, no phonecall, nothing. I am going MIA tomorrow and he can mind DD for the day.

Ah ladies, that's awful.

I was not looking forward to today at all, but my own mother surprised me with a card and a small present and it completely lifted my spirits. Even if occasions like this don't mean much to guys, they should recognise that it does mean something to a lot of women.

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He went to the shops and came back with a wilted bunch of flowers and a miniscule box of chocolates, only because I was snappy with him all morning. At least the DDs are too young to notice that there is something wrong. I am so tempted to head to Dundrum and leave him, but I know if I do he will cook the kids dinner and leave the whole mess for me to clean up. I think from now on I am going to concentrate on kids occasions, and just leave him to do what he likes for other stuff like his own birthday and fathers day etc.

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I just feel like bursting into tears constantly.
He went round to the shops. And came home and said oh I got dinner. Bloody goujons frozen ones. Like seriously there's about 6 in the pack and there's 4 mouths to feed. I still had to peel spuds and get some veg ready etc.

Now I'm getting an earful about how I should cheer up and cop on that's it's only another day.

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I can't even go anywhere on my own cos of my stupid knee.

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He is now hoovering, I think he realises the extent of how pissed off I am!! I found some frozen pitta breads so we are having chicken pittas, no peeling or chopping here today!

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After a faux pas of suggesting we go out to dinner for his mother's mothers day (longer story, much more dramatic than the abreviated version ) Dh really stood up to the plate spending all of last night and today helping me clean up puke from 2 kids who have the vomiting bug and then after almost no sleep cooking me breakfast this morning, my god it is the little things in life that makes me grateful. I only got up at 2.30 as I had taken back to the bed with the baby to keep him hydrated as he was just taking small feeds at a time though thankfully he has only a teeny dose of the bug compared to dd2 who has been vomitting day and night.

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I am now in my room in tears after another blazing row and another mothers day ruined.
Dd1 gave out to him and then he gave out hell to her. Dd2 was left crying then.


I honestly don't know how much more of this shit I can take. And its not just today.

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To add a bit of perspective, it is a bit of a rubbishy made up day, and if your kids/husband are genuinely good to you all the time and show they love you then surely that's aol that matters.

That's the thing tho lilyanna. That's not the way it is here.
90% of what i do is just taken for granted and honestly that is not an exaggeration.

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Ah wendy thats crap for you

They really are thoughtless gits sometimes

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Aileen

Wendy you really need to do something to change things. Life is too short to be constantly miserable. I hope your leg feels better soon x

Ah girls that's not right at all. I would be so upset with DH if he didn't make an effort, the kids get such fun out of the day spoiling me No presents need to be exchanged, I just got 3 gorgeous handmade cards, burnt toast and cold coffee in bed I would be having serious words with your DH's , that shit about just another day, your not my mother etc, that's all just a big cop out. Definitely go spoil yourselves if not today then tommorrow.
Becca

Well, I got a lie-in (but it was my turn anyway), a card and a scratch card but in DH's defence, he did show me a few things online that he was looking at and couldn't decide so there is more to come.

He didn't, however, take the hint that I dropped a few times about a necklace with the girls' names on that I saw on pinterest. I was obviously too subtle.

Seriously, though, you need to explain to him - he just mustn't get why it's a big deal.

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I'm really sorry you are all hurting so much. It's really unfair that you were looking forward to being appreciated today and your oh's let you down.

I think if you were hoping that a special effort on his behalf wold make things ok I think you really need to take a look at your relationship, simply because he didn't respect that regardless of how HE felt about it, it mattered to you.

I don't really "do" Mothers day. DD made me a card in Montessori but I didn't get one off DH. I got a lie-in but I get one most of the time, ESP now cos I'm pregnant and I was up most of the night with DD and her coughing. I got poached eggs on toast and coffee in bed and then we all went into town. DD slept the whole ime and we had a coffee. Dd is now Whinging on me and dh is asleep n the couch

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I came on here thinking I would be the only one. Girls I am so upset. Dp doesnt give a balls about things like this. I got nothing not even a card. I know we are saving I asked him to get me a pair of sandals from pennys for 13 euro and he couldnt even do that. DD knew which ones they were so he could have brought her in. I went up to my Dads with a plant for him and at least expected him to make dinner but no..I came home and had to cook dinner and made lasagne for the kids for tomorrow as I am going to Belfast tomorrow. I am going out later with my sisters for something to eat and thought he would have a least made me something small. I feel like crying but dont want to upset the kids its not there fault. Ds2 came up with a slice of cake to me in bed this morning.

He wouldnt be bothered in the slightest if I did nothing foe Fathers day as he thinks they are a load of shite...which they are but it is nice to feel appreciated and special for one day. I am fucked if I am even getting him a card this fathers day.

I just ate him there and told him I am the only Mammy in Dublin to not receive a card.. his response was that he would get me one if I wanted one...sure what good is something you have to ask for?

So I am sitting here sniffing the snots and tears back in...so upset

So sorry to hear about the mammies that are hurting and upset today. Unfortunately, I'm joining this thread too. First mother's day and DH gave me a crappy bunch of flowers and the best of the leftover cards from the local shop than he went out last night to get. I know its more than some of you got and I might be ungrateful but it's my first mother's day and I wanted to be spoilt and an acknowledgement of the day and of all I have done for DH, SS over the years and for DS since his birth.

I spoke to DH about my disappointment to be told he isn't happy in the marriage and went on to tell me that I've been a nightmare to live with this past year. After a blazing row I told him to arrange marriage counselling in the end up as apparently I'm ungrateful of the gifts I got today, I'm a misery to be around and even though I never get to express how I'm feeling I apparently blame him for everything.

Needless to say this mother's day will be deleted from my memory if possible asap. I'm so fed up. I guess that is what I get for raising my expectations, any time I do I get hurt. (Lesson to self, don't expect anything and then you don't get hurt.)

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you should have said, "yes please i'd appreciate it, better late than never. and sure you'll know for next year i will ALWAYS want at least a card. glad we cleared that up. oh, a bottle of wine and some choccies wouldn't go astray either, cheers."

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I wouldnt mind but I have been telling DP all week its mothers day... He doesnt do hints either he needs to be told. And usually he gets me cards etc thats why its so disappointing today...

Aliwassi like myself so. Just cos he thinks it's no big deal doesn't mean the same goes for us.

I don't know anymore.
I sat down last year with him and explained how I felt about mothers day etc and how it is a day where I also like to go out with the girls and have some fun and a laugh Now some might say sure you can do that anytime ( well that's what DH says) but that's not the case. Due to financial problems with all my friends we don't go out very often at all. We do go into each others houses about 1 every 6 weeks or so for a couple of drinks. But we would have the kids up in bed and you know yourself you have to be quiet. So I was Looking forward to just being Wendy. Then when he said about going to IL's I said ok fair enough. But now I honestly think that he had never any intention of goin down there and he just never wanted me to go out in the first place.

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What is up with them? Sure apparently I've changed lately too for the worse. I used to be somebody he respected but I've become very common lately and at times he would think I'm from Moore street and he doesn't like who I am sometimes. Like seriously.

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Same rant, same day, same thread... new year.

I swear, every single mother's day every year we get a thread like this.

Sorry you had a crappy day. It's not over yet. Take control of your evening.

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