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Is anyone elses dh suffering from performance pressure. Its happened a couple of times that he cant seem to ehem 'deliver the goods' . He's working nights all this week and im oving in the next few days so this morning was the one chance we will get. I woke him up nice and early thinking we have a good 30 mins here. All went well but he just couldnt finish, i ended up just getting up and leaving. I feel terrible but i was pissed off , I know totally unreasonable but i cant help it. anyone else suffering

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Not what you want to hear, but I'm not surprised he is suffering from pressure if that's what you ended up doing! I know it must be frustrating but if you want it to get better then get over it and tell him it doesn't matter. How would you feel if the roles were reversed and he was waking you up at an allotted time and expecting you to orgasm when he told you to?!

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Not ttc but did happen when we were. I remember the frustration but month i thou we.d missed out Dd was Concieved

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well when i said i got up and left, i did tell him it was alright, But i had to leave for work . I didnt make him feel bad, but i was pissed off with the situation. Its 11 months now and i know he cant control it, No more than he can make me, but its just so frustating. I mean most of the times we dtd it doesnt take 30 mins,

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Oh okay I get you now. Then yeh - frustrating but there's nothing you can do about it. I imagine he knew what you were up to when you woke him up... which doesn't help the mood. I've been there too!

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Yes! an i feel your pain, i had have fertility treatments get preg an started with fertility injections on dd1 an then doc advised us of days to dtd and like your dh my dh just couldnt deliver the goods an i tried to be understanding but in all honesty i wanted to kill him esp after taking the injections an stuff. what helped us was having a chat an me admitting that yes it annoyed me but i honestly knew it wasnt his fault an didnt blame him an sur we'd give it a go an if it worked great an if not sur what could we do. we also changed the sex venue to spare room an got as much spontaneous as we could be dh calmed down a bit an it made hugh diff.

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Girls I hear ya, this happened to us when all our trying was going on and yes it is pressure because it doesn't happen now

I agree talking is good but if it has been going on for 11mths the maybe a trip to Dr. would be good and put his mind at rest with a bit of help from meds.